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Jake Anderson 0:00 courting started. So it's Korea started here. So bunch of you're listening to this, I'm going to do a clap. And when I do the clap, that's going to signal the cue for editing. We're going to have the audio and the video coming in separately, just giving you the instructions here. Of course, we'll talk about this. So I'm gonna wait a few seconds in silence, and then kick off the do the clap, then kick off the intro. Announcer 0:32 introspective, inward looking, self examining, characterized by or given to introspection. Welcome to the introspective podcast, your compass for internalizing the path towards optimal lifestyle design, business success and mindful entrepreneurship with your host, Jake Anderson. Jake Anderson 0:56 Hey, welcome back, everybody. We're here for another daily deep dive on the introspective podcast. And this is actually the perfect conversation around the context of what we really tried to talk about here, which is mindful entrepreneurship, but going into, you know, the lifestyle design and, and how you can can really manifest opportunities, and create that life by design, that lifestyle, by design and in focusing on your business. And, you know, when it comes to to building this for yourself, I think there's a lot that we need to understand just about that inner game. And today, I have a special guest. His name is James Allen, who is an international high performance coach, author and podcaster. He helps his clients live into their highest potential so they can feel more alive, engaged, purposeful and free. James takes a very holistic approach to success by helping his clients create a life in business that surpasses their expectations in their health, wealth and relationships, to success to James success is an inner game. This is why he helps his clients with things like mindset, confidence, health, and well being courage, leadership, high performance manifestation on top of business strategy, and he believes that in order to succeed at a high level for long term, which is what highperformance is all about, you will need both a strong mindset coupled with an effective strategy. I welcome to the podcast James Allen. James, how you doing today? James Allen 2:31 I'm doing awesome, man. Thank you. Jake Anderson 2:33 Sounds good. Yeah, this is great. I mean, you know, I want to start with manifestation because I know that, you know, I've had conversations and I've even you know, seen, you know, just things in content where you almost have like two different two different looks on manifestation. You got some people who thinks it's just completely bogus, and it's all woowoo. And, and it's, it's silly, and why would you do something like that? There's this kind of negative perception. But then on the other side, you have this standpoint, where people truly it's like part of their operating system. You know, that's that's what they it's a strong belief. And I think it even goes beyond belief. I think there's there's certainly some some action and results that come with that through that practice. So I want to hand it over to you on manifestation kind of talk about how you perceive it, kind of what you have discovered through through that particular area. James Allen 3:26 Yeah, so I love manifestation, the whole topic. And recently I started looking up since Dr. Sol is actually like a recommended video. This one guy, his name's James you, I don't remember his last name. But he does like some really, really high quality documentary films. I can't recall what it was. Last name is, but you can find him he just talks about like, the real truth behind like money and personal and he does like quite a few about personal development, like the dark side of self help. And I find it really interesting to watch those personally because I'm in this profession. And I want to hear like, what do people not like about like, what is it that bothers people? Is there something I can learn here? Am I just in some hoax full, you know, like, profession, which I know, because I have helped my clients get amazing results that they really want their life using manifestation principles. And a lot of what he talked about in it was the, the secret the movie, The Secret. I'm talking about, like, manifestation how it's like this. This completely woowoo thing, like you were talking about, about like, you just think about the things that you want, like, think about $1,000 checks, there's 1000s and 1000s of dollar checks just flowing into your bank account every day. And it's like, oh, that's just gonna happen. Like, no, it's not. And that's like, the thing about manifestation. I think. I think people think it's woowoo because they think like, Oh, you just think about it, like and it just happens in your life. So a manifestation, I believe is a whole body experience. It is thought it's feeling and it's action which ultimately leads to getting results, but it's about the direction that we're pushing our energy. So we look at the dictionary definition of manifest, which is what if I type in manifestation, it would say, manifest, manifest, there's an adjective and a verb. And I think they go hand in hand, which is why I'm going to share both of them adjective is clear or obvious to the eye or mind, the verb is a display or show a quality or feeling by one's acts or appearances demonstrating. So this is like acting as if we want to demonstrate the result that we ultimately want. But the thing is, like, you can't just sit there and think about, like, if you wanted to love your life to come into your life, you know, you can't just like, sit there and think about it, and be like, oh, that'd be amazing to have and never go on any dates or interact with people or walk up and say hi, and start a conversation and build a connection of any kind or even try to do that. You know? And it's like, obviously, you can't just think about it. Let's do like really good at manifesting, I guess it's something crazy happens where like you, but even still, you'd have to, like invite friends over and say, yes, it's okay. That's like a form of action, where like, maybe someone came in through the door, who was a mutual friend of another friend, and then you guys hit it off, and then you got that great relationship. I like to think about manifesting as like, yes, you have to have the thought the feelings coupled with the action to actually make it happen. where like, if you if you think about like fishing, for example, and you throw out your hook into the water, and you catch a fish, the fish symbolizes your idea that you have, it's the dream that you have. And if you know anything about fishing, if you've gone fishing, or watch fishing of any kind, you see that, like, depending on the size of the fish, it's just this game of back and forth. And that's how I think about manifestation where you have this idea, you're hooked to it, you're committed to it like me going into coaching, for example, because I was in construction work went into coaching, because that's what was aligned with me that this big dream for this coaching business on my own. I'm doing podcasts like this with amazing people like Jake Anderson, and doing podcast myself, and creating content working with clients and leaders and all this amazing things. So it's like this big fish that I have. And if you have some huge fish, you're fishing in the ocean, it's gonna swim out, and it's gonna be a battle to bring it back and forth. So think about manifestation, like the ideas what hooks you up to the fish, that's your hook, basically, gotcha. And then the feelings, the positive emotion, of gratitude of nurturing it of you writing out your goals and dreams every single day, which is what I do twice a day, and I'll get into that later. But if you think about those positive emotions that are connected with that dream, and the actions that you're taking, that's like you reeling in the fish, and then life throws us curveballs, things happen, you know, oh, shit hits the fan, and the fish starts swimming away. That's where we feel like this is never gonna work. This is a bunch of BS, what's the point of entrepreneurship or going after this business or this dream or writing this book or creating this nonprofit or whatever it is, all the doubt in the negative emotions are like the fish swimming away. So that's like the pull back and forth, but eventually you keep working at it, keep pulling it in, then you catch your big fish. That's how I think about manifestation. Jake Anderson 8:11 I love the visual there. You know, and, and thinking about thinking about manifestation, I think from a, from a standpoint of how this is going to, you know, for the people out there who I guess are maybe a little bit more type A, and are like, Okay, well how is this going to help me you know, achieve something? Or like, how can I use this as a tool for for, you know, business success or life success, what have you. And it almost seems like, he made a really good point, where you're talking about the environment that you surround yourself with, as far as like, being on podcast and surrounding yourself with with things that lead you to that place of, you know, fulfillment or success or whatever that next level is that kind of helps you move there. Would you say like, that's a key component of manifestation is having surrounding yourself with with people or like, what are some of the things I guess more on like, ethical level like that people should be thinking about? James Allen 9:12 Yeah, totally. So the inner game portion is like what we call five cents rising. It's what I call five cents rising your dream. So five cents rising. Your dream is when you're visualizing like, people spend meditation time, like really successful people, Tim Ferriss in the book tools of Titans, he actually talks about three major successful traits that really like the major successful people have it's three common traits. And number one is they have a dedicated meditation practice. Number two, is that they have dedicated journaling time. And the meditation practice is also like a visualization practice. They have dedicated journaling time, and they're zealously protective of their own time. And I believe that what the successful people are doing when they're doing these things is that they're visualizing. They're feeding their energy towards this goal that they want. Because if you look up, people who write down their goals and dreams, like I have this thing called a 40 day challenge where you get a super basic notebook off Amazon for like 10 bucks or whatever. Or you can get a piece of paper, and you write out your most like current vision that you have every single day, two times per day for 40 days. Because 40 is a number of transformation. That's why I did it. But honestly, it can take a lot longer than that I personally finished my 40 days, and I didn't reach my goal yet, but I was on a roll. And I said, I'm gonna do 90 days, and I'm on day 86. Now. And even after that, it's just maybe there's a new dream that comes in things are manifesting in my own life really fast. And that's what happens. Because with the dedicated meditation time, the journaling time you're writing out these dreams. And if you do look up, like the effectiveness of writing out your dreams, people who actually write down their dreams, I think are about 40% or so 30 or 40% more likely to actually achieve it than people who don't do it. Because where your attention goes, energy flows. So we're constantly putting our attention into this thing that we want to create. And by doing that, like scientifically, your brain will just start to see more opportunity. And that's what's known as the reticular activating system. It goes into play, it's like if you got a new Honda, red Honda, and you were always interested in getting that red Honda you would start seeing red Honda's every single place. And it's because your reticular activating system is thinking about red Honda's. So when you're thinking about making six figures in your business or making 60k months, and that's like what you're feeding all of your energy and attention to in your meditating where you're sitting down and doing a guided meditation visualizing in your mind 60k months like I'm experiencing, you start to see things and meet people that lead to you actually making 60k months, or six figures, whatever your goal is, Jake Anderson 11:53 yeah, you what, what is what you believe you can achieve. And I think that, that as you have these visualizations, and, and do things, like you said, like writing things out and making them, it adds, it adds almost like a realness to it, it becomes for if it's just sticking in your head. You know, it's, it's, it's still just a thought at that point. But when you actually take it from your head and put it on paper, it becomes more real. And I know like, you know, even in business, and I can only speak from my own experience, but I'm sure anybody else's listening this been through kind of that process. As you start to, you know, when you first get started, it's almost like your mind thinks about money. Like as, as you as you would at your job, right? Like you think about money as maybe you're making 50,000 a year, right? So you're you're thinking about money in terms of, you know, 4800 a month or whatever that is, but that, but then when you get into business, and you start to grow and start to scale, and you start seeing 10k 20k 30k, whatever, 100k months, it just is this a complete shift in your paradigm, because it becomes real in this almost like, because your belief system is there. It seems to be that your actions and energy kind of flow into into more operating at that level, like because you just don't know what it is. So I'm just thinking about, you know, when it comes to, you know, things like manifestation, and, and going into creating that career and thinking about, like, there's people out there that have a lot of passion for things, and they are, you know, really into things that maybe they feel like, well, this is great, this is something I love, but could I really actually do what I love and make that my full time focus, like because that would be amazing, right? To be able to just every day, wake up and go into the thing that you absolutely love the most that you're most passionate about, and be able to make that your lifestyle in something that pulls in money to be able to take care of the things that you need to take care of and make the ends meet. But I know in this two previous conversations that you believe that that's possible, like that plenty of reason, right? So I want to ask you, like how is that possible for somebody to be able to take their passion and turn it into a source of energy that takes care of their lifestyle that gives them the means to be able to live and thrive in the world that they are in? James Allen 14:27 Yeah, so a couple things we're about to go off right now. But in a very in a good way. But um, it Yes, first off, everything is possible that you can come up with in your mind, you can't have a thought that comes up in your mind without having it be possible. It is possible. And people will doubt because it may not happen as fast as you want. But that's why we journal that's why we do the meditation practice and we work towards it the best that we can diligently because before I got into like marketing with my business, it took me like a couple years because I was working on all this inner stuff when I first started entrepreneurship and these channels Is that I had inside of me, and I look back, I'm like, What the heck was I doing, but really, I was operating at the level that I could at the time. Yeah. So you can have an idea, a dream inside your mind that is possible. First and foremost, like you're more capable every single person is, then we claim to be, but we have all this outside influence all this negativity, that all these Yeah, this limitation base, you know, just limits us from actually doing it. And there's major, like roadblocks that actually come up, there's four, really, and then I like to think about them like kinks in the hose. So if you think about your mind as a garden is actually called the law of the garden, but you had this little seed, which is your dream, and you plant that inside your garden, in order to grow the garden. Or in order to grow the seed inside your garden, you have to nurture it, you have to water it, you have to adjust and do it and make sure that it's going to grow, you know, and then eventually it starts to sprout some roots that starts to grow, and be this beautiful avocado tree of a dream or whatever it is for you. And it's really hard to make that grow, when it's getting choked out by weeds. And there's weeds, which are things like fear, or if you think about your hose, and you're going to go water it, water your plant intend to do it, you can't win, there's things inside the house, these four kinks that are most common that show up inside your house are number one, a sense of deserving. People don't think that they deserve it, they have this idea. And if you ask people like Hey, what do you really want to do with your life? Like, I gave you a magic wand for the next three years? And you could do whatever you want? What would it be? They're like, well, I guess I would create all these things. Or they'll even say like, I don't know, I don't know. And they just like instantly say that, even though they do know what they really want. Because when they're by themselves, they think about the things that they would really love. Like, I don't want to have money, if you have a hard time thinking about what you really would love. Think about what you wouldn't love and just do the opposite of that, because that's what you'd really love. You know, if you're like, I don't want to, like not have any more money, like, okay, so you want to have money, like that's a start and keep working towards that. But a sense of deserving is the first kink in the hose. And it's something that has to get massaged out just like if you were watering your garden for your little seed of a dream that you have, because it starts as a little idea, more we nurture it, the more we commit to it, let it grow, it turns in. So the sense of deserving is the first one first thing with that you are more deserving than you can ever imagine. It's, it's about the feeling of being deserving, you know, and we can never outperform our self image of what we can achieve or have in our life. But the good news is that we can change it. And that's the thermostats setting that we have inside of ourselves. So a sense of deserving the second one's fear. People have fear, and they're like, I'm not going to do it, because I'm scared. I'm not gonna go into entrepreneurship, because I just, it scares me, you know, all the risk that's entailed with being an entrepreneur. I forgot who it was. But they said, If you aren't willing to take risks, then get out of business. It may have been Jeff Bezos or something like that. Oh, yeah. So that's a deserving fear. A sense of lack is another one thing, I don't have the connections, I don't have the people in my life, I don't have the know how I don't have the right relationships, I don't have the money, I don't have the time. And these are all excuses to that dream. And then the fourth one is forgiveness. So I think it's a really overlooked topic is forgiveness. But if you you can't build a dream, you can have like, all the courage, you know, so you're not scared, like afraid of this and you feel like you deserve in all these things or not feel a sense of lack. But if you don't have the forgiveness piece into play, then you have a huge knot inside your house. Because we cannot build a dream, no matter how big beautiful The dream is, if we are feeding our mind, subconsciously, or consciously with feelings of resentment, of blame, of shame, of guilt, and those things, so that's where the forgiveness piece comes into play towards ourselves and towards other people. Because when we really forgive, you just opened up a huge stream of energy, because it takes a lot of energy to put to put that energy towards, like resentment or blame or guilt or shame towards yourself or other people. You know, so that's where forgiveness piece comes into play. So it was like the four biggest things that I would say in terms of like kinks in our hose that come up that we should always be aware of, in terms of the inner game. Jake Anderson 19:17 So the two apps that I want to touch on here fear and forgiveness. You know, I think I'm glad you brought up forgiveness First up, because I do agree with you, I think it's overlooked. And I think that people don't realize how much energy is being extracted from them because of things like resentment, and, you know, blame and all this. I mean, it really, it's it's almost, I don't think and I'm just I'm thinking about myself anytime I've ever felt that, you know, sense of I'm resentful towards whatever or I'm blaming something and I have that insight in in when you're able to kind of liberate your from it, there is this huge sense of relief. But it's hard, like, especially like if somebody, if somebody has done you wrong, right in life, I mean to a to a level that just sticks with you for years, you know, and it's just, you know, like, maybe you went through a really nasty divorce, maybe somebody, I don't know, whatever the situation is, we all have probably been through some kind of an experience that somebody has done something to us, and it really creates this just really negative feeling like you like what can somebody do? And I think the same applies with fear, like, these are two really strong, you know, pieces to this framework that I think people I would imagine is probably the most challenging for people, excuse me, for people to overcome is the fear and getting to a place of forgiveness. So from a mindset perspective, like how can somebody what steps can somebody take to overcome things like fear, and get over that sense of resentment or blame to get to a place of forgiveness? Sure, James Allen 21:05 yeah. So I could literally do a whole entire episode just on forgiveness. There's, there's a lot of things. But I think that the biggest thing, because I want to answer your questions, you still kind of went on a little tangent, but I think it was important tangent towards us actually creating a life and business that we really want, right, regardless of what it is. So real quick with forgiveness. There's a great book called A Course in Miracles. And there's a great saying inside of that book that says every act is either a call for love or an expression of love, regardless of how unskillful it may seem. So if people act out negatively, they are yelling at you, they did terrible things to you, whatever it is, you know, your divorce happened, and like you mentioned, then all that is just that people are in their own little worlds. And if you've read the Four Agreements, which is the book that really changed my life, and got me into personal development, a second agreement is about not taking things personally. And the fundamental piece of it is that everybody's in their own world. That's why someone could be super nice to you don't take it personally, someone super mean to you, the same person Don't take it personally. Because they're on their own little world, they have their own, like every mind you see is its own little universe, its own planet or going on. And they're thinking about that, because it's survival. It's all this stuff that goes into it's a whole, that could be a whole podcast episode. But with forgiveness, knowing that every act is either a call for love or an expression of love, regardless of how unskillful it may seem, that perspective really helps me personally feel compassion. and compassion is the beginning of forgiveness. Because if someone lashes out on you, and then you find out through so you like know what was up with that person and you find out from someone else, like, Hey, you know, they're going through this really hard divorce right now. their, their kid is in the hospital with some chronic illness. And you go, Oh, crap, like, that's why they're acting like that. So you feel that way. And you're in you instantly shift from being like, what's up with that person to feeling compassion, and be like, I feel bad, I want to go give the person you know. And that's what forgiveness is. Because forgiveness is insane. It's okay, if all that stuff happened if the people like raped me or stole my family from me, or, you know, whatever, whenever there was a bad investment in my business, that they just like, screwed me over, whatever, you know, it's it frees us. It's not saying those things are okay. It frees us from years and years of torment, because there's another great saying that says there can't be a jailer without or it can't be someone jailed without there being a jailer, like you are the jailer holding this person. And the Buddha said that resentment is like holding a hot coal expecting the other person to burn. That's why people can be detached from these people, and then be feeling all this pain inside and limiting them to getting into drug abuse or all this crazy stuff that happens. You know, so compassion is the first part of forgiveness. And when you think about, everybody's in their own little world, they're acting out in some crazy way. Maybe they're going through something that I don't know. But if you like hear about that, like I mentioned before, about, oh, that person, like their kids in the hospital, for example, chronic illness, they don't know how they're gonna pay the bill. That's why they're acting out and being freaking out and pissed off, because they're just working at a grocery store or something. And you hear that and you're like, wow, but what if we could feel compassion without actually knowing what the whole situation is? Jake Anderson 24:26 That's the real question. That is the real question. Because in the, the thing is, and I've had conversations with my wife about this exact thing, as far as anytime you see somebody and they're just acting in some kind of a negative way, they're angry, they're being rude, whatever it may be. You always I think it's important to just remember that you don't know what's going on in that world. You know, and And typically, whenever you see people, especially when it's extreme behavior, You know, I mean, really any paver nine just extreme any behavior, I'd imagine that people, there's a reason that people are acting that way. And, and it could, it could be that, hey, this person just lost her job. They don't know how they're going to make rent, they've got a small family. And you know, they're a bit stressed right now. And whatever you did was not intentional, but something may have pushed a button, whatever that button was, and it caused a reaction. But it's, it's, it's, it's sometimes easy, like when you're not, I guess it's just like a lack of understanding as a person and lack of understanding the situations that people are going through. James Allen 25:39 Yeah, well, if people act out that way, then yeah, there's something going on inside their world, whether they're chemically imbalanced, or whatever it is, or they're just pissed off about something. They just have something going on in their world. And it's that simple. And it can be kind of hard to wrap your mind around, especially if someone does something crazy. But again, it doesn't mean you have to keep these people in your life. Even if it's family, you have toxic family, get away, like go do your own thing. You know, you don't keep the people in your life, you leave and you take care of yourself, unless you unless you've turned every single stone that you can to make sure that you've done everything you can the relationship, or whatever it is with the person, whether it's like an intimate or non intimate relationship. And you've tried every possible thing, and it's just not some people just don't change. And that's just kind of how it is. feel compassion to them. Say, may you like be truly happy, may you live in peace. You know, goodbye, but I need to leave for me, because forgiveness is about us. It's about taking care of you. And it takes a lot of courage. It is not easy to do forgiveness practice. But I would say to just kind of like share the most valuable beginning of forgiveness because some a lot of people are new to it. They're like, I don't know how to do it. feel compassion for the person started to say that person must have, you know, having so much pain in their life, right? Now they must have something going on right now, that is just terrible for them. And if I can help, and I will, but if they keep lashing out, it's like, okay, there's a time to back away, you know, turning every stone is you putting in an effort, that's you turning a stone, it's you trying to be they're trying to be supportive, but you have to like have the fine line, like, Okay, this person's not going to change. I've literally tried everything starting to cut away, you know, and feel compassion towards them. So that's like the biggest piece that I'll share in terms of forgiveness. But even on my podcast, I do forgiveness fees, I did like a little series about three tangible ways that you can actually, maybe I can send them over to you, we could put them in the description or something. But it's like three actual practices that you can use in terms of forgiveness on top of this, because I like to talk about forgiveness, I think, again, like it's an overlooked topic. Jake Anderson 27:43 Yeah, I mean, I think it's massively overlooked. I haven't really had it come up much in conversation. And I've had a few You know, I've had a few podcast episodes and interviews and things around mindset. And I haven't you know, forgiveness has never really been part of the conversation. Not to this level, at least. And real quick, just so you know, while we're on the topic, I go ahead and let's, let's let the audience know what what is your podcast? What's the name of it? We'll go ahead and certainly put it in the show notes in the description as well, just so they can hear it. Where can they find your podcast? James Allen 28:17 Yeah, so it's on Apple, Spotify, Google podcasts on all those, it's called MPI radio. So that stands for massive positive impact radio, and it's just designed to help you make your own massive positive impact in the world, whatever that is for you. You know, the question to ask yourself, when you're doing it is like, what's my MPI? What's the massive positive impact that I want to see create or be a part of in this world, and it can be massive for you maybe not, it's like a global scale, but maybe it's just you being the best parent you can be. And that's your impact, because you're going to leave a legacy for future generations. So that's the idea of the podcast. And yeah, I can send over those links to you after this and we can put them in for the forgiveness practice. There's three of them. Jake Anderson 28:57 Perfect. Yeah, that would be great. I mean, I know I'm sure there's a lot of people listening right now and I'm one of them even though I'm not listening, I'm having conversations, thinking about forgiveness and and it's it is challenging, there's certain things even to this day, I have a hard time letting go of things that that's happened years ago there there were some family things that went on happen, you know, with my my stepdad specifically, he did some really dirty things in my family and, and I, I have not been able to let go of that. As far as a just just an internal anger, resentment, just that negative feeling. And so, you know, it's it is tough and fierce, tough to write. It's like trying to get over the fear of taking a risk. I mean, any you know what this thing but James like when it comes to taking risk, I personally and I want to hear your thoughts on this too, as far as just the whole concept of taking risk. And I think you're I think we're always taking risk, even when you go and get a job somewhere, you know, there's, you're still risking your time. And, you know, in your effort and energy into putting it into a company, you know, over a span of however many years, but the risk there that I see is that they can they're making the decisions, whoever the ownership is, you know, they're the ones who kind of hold your destiny in their hands, you know, when you work for a place. That's one reason why I don't, that's what I don't like about one of the big things I don't like about going out and getting a job is that and I've never seen this in the banking industry, my goodness, it was all over. Like people, they were merging and acquiring each other all you know, and within moment's notice, you could have 30 years into a banking institution and just like that, it's gone because of a merger. And you're now No, you're you're redundant at this point, no longer needed in your position, so they get rid of you. And that's a risk. You know, that's a risk that you take. So there's but people don't people are afraid of that. They don't I guess they don't even think about it. Really. It's just it's still a safer place for them to be. But I want to ask you about fear, like, what do you think? Let's kind of shift everything like what are some things that you would say that people can do from a mindset perspective on kind of overcoming fear? James Allen 31:26 Yeah, so there's actually a really good story that I'll share with you real quick about fear. And it's about a kid who is a, he's in a Native American tribe, and he wants to pee while he's getting coming of age where now it's time to go on what is a vision class where they go out into the wilderness for like, a month or so. And they're gonna go out there, because he's about 16 or so whatever the age is. And he is like, terrified, because he's like, I could die. I can eat some plant, I gotta live on my own in the wilderness. I got to hunt for my own food. Like, what if I eat some poisonous plant? What if I get hit by a mountain lion or a bear, or I just freeze to death, like, there's all this bad that can happen, and I'm terrified. But at the same time, there's a part of them that's like, I want to do this because it where I'm from, this is an important part of a man's journey in our tribe. So going on this vision quest is how we actually become a true man. Right? So he goes over to his chief, and he's just like, battling, and he goes, who's chief and he's like, Chief, it feels like there's two dogs inside of me, it feels like there's a black dog that's telling me that I can't do this. And then I'm going to die. And there's no point in doing it. And then there's a white dog saying that I can do this, that I'm going to come back, I'm going to be successful, I'm going to become a real man in my tribe, and everything's going to work out. So as these two dogs fighting inside of them, oftentimes we have that kind of feeling inside of ourselves, like, should I start this business? Should I make this investment, whatever it is. And he goes, whose chief tells him all this, and the chief looks in him, it says, he puts his hand on his shoulder nice and compassionately. And he says, Son, the white dog will win. And he says, How do you know that? He says, because that is the wolf that you will feed. And my girlfriend actually has a tattoo on her arm that says the wolf you feed. And I thought that was so cool. It was really attractive for me, because I knew about this story before I had known her and I saw it's all geared towards the game story. So when we're going to make a decision to do something is either make an investment that could potentially launch our business into the next level, or we're going to make a decision even start a business or some new endeavor, or go on an adventure, maybe you want to climb Mount Everest, and you're like, I could die. But it'd be so cool to see the top of Mount Everest. We have the white dog symbolizes our faith. And the black dog symbolizes the fear that we have, you know, so we want to feed our faith and the way that we feed the faith is by putting our attention to it. And that's like writing out your dream every day like we talked about, or taking the time to meditate and to feed your mind the whole manifestation thing that we talked about, you know, all this stuff is very all combines together. It's not just one thing or another. Were there tools to help us make this dream happen. So that's, that's my take on fear. Jim Carrey actually has a really cool quote, about fear where he said, you can fail at what you don't want. So you might as well take a chance to doing what you love. And that's like the thing because life's not guaranteed. So I was in construction work, and I was making the decision of like, I'm going to leave construction work and go into this coaching thing. It was a five year apprenticeship. And I was four years in and I had all my ducks in a row to start this coaching thing. And if I finished my five years, which is my dad told me to do, everybody told me to do. I'd be completely vested. I'd be solid, totally set. And I could always come back and do construction, but the thing was that I didn't want to do construction. I had no interest now or future like my beautiful like Best future self? Is he doing construction work? No, maybe he's doing a job around is how the living, because I was beating myself up, and my dad's just beat up as well, from doing years and years and years of construction decades. So I had this fear of like, I'm actually gonna make the decision to leave a year early, because I'm ready to go. And I'm gonna just like work three months, and then save up as much as I can pay my car off, you know, and just go for it. And that's exactly what I did. But yeah, it was like negotiating with doubts and fears and whatnot. And it's, it has to come down to the thing that we really want to pursue, like, and maybe you're in a position is listening to this right now, where you want to go start a business adventure, or some some kind of thing that you want to do. That's not what you're doing now. Because you're not happy, you're clearly not happy here, nothing has changed over a period of time. And you're like, I have this idea. I really want to do it. What do I do? Do what gives you life, Howard Thurman has one of the coolest quotes in the world. He was a mentor to Martin Luther King, where he said, don't do what you think the world needs. Do what makes you come alive, because what the world needs more people who've come alive. And I love that quote. And when I thought in my situation of like, I want to do the coaching thing that makes me come alive, thinking about staying here and construction work grinding day in and day out not being around the type of people that I really want to be around, not having the type of conversations that I want to be having. It makes me feel drained inside. And I feel like I am meant for so much more. And we're really in alignment. Like when I do coaching and this conversation, it gives me energy, it doesn't drain me of energy. Right? You know, I love meeting with people like Jake, and having conversations like this about mastering the inner game, because I know the value in it. And so if it's, you know, I mean, real quick, actually, this does dovetail into the original question. We went off a little bit of a tangent, but I still want to talk about this about is it really possible to do the work that I really love? 100%? Yeah, because there's a five point test and actually want to share with you, which is a simple framework, to really make sure that your dream or this idea that you have is really worth your time and talent. And it's five questions that you ask yourself real quick, you can let it go, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, good to do a stoplight any dream that you have, whether it's a big one or a small one, you want to make sure that it's worth your energy because you're going to trade your your most precious commodity, which is time to build something. And we don't have a lot of time you can make money, you can lose money making back. You can't do that with time. So the five questions number one, does it give me a life like Howard Thurman's close? You think about this idea? Does it light you up inside, I share it with a friend and just say this is what I'm working on? Do you get like pumped? That's the idea. That's a yes, check. Cool. Number two, does it align with my core values? Meaning does it align with who you really are, for me constructions did, I like working with my hands, you know, like thinking creatively, but showing up waking up at 330 every single morning to drive an hour to commute and then go grind my heart out for construction to build somebody else's dream. Now that's not in alignment with me. And if you think of your core, use, like think about if you were on your deathbed, and you could like reflect on your life? Would you be completely content with the decisions that you made? I mean, of course, there's things that we didn't do you know, but like, what would it really matter to you? That's a big question to ask yourself. What would really matter to you? For me, it's, I mean, like totally like being radically transparent. coaching. For me, I think the biggest thing that drew me to it is like, yes, you can have free time, you can have like, endless cap of income, you know, doing coaching. It's amazing. But the biggest thing for me was that I grew up in a family that was very toxic, and mental health was far out the window. And that's why I love coaching, because I love the inner game, because I know the value in mental health. So what really excites me is my future kids, giving them the life that I never had, because it was just chaos in my life. And I almost lost my parents, you know, multiple times to gunshots to beatings, crazy things, and I never will have that for my kids. And that's what coaching really is for me because it's feeling compassion, learning how to overcome fear, because it's all teaching and I'm teaching this to my future kids, as it really hits home for me. So does it align with my core values? Hell, yeah. Number three, does it cause me to grow? When you think about this dream? Is your gonna cause you to stretch to grow? Because you don't know how to make it happen? You want to yes to that? And number four? Does it align with my higher or does it require help from a higher power so not everybody's into like higher power, God, the universe, whatever. I think you should practice adopting it because it makes life a lot more enjoyable and fun. Personally. I'm not a religious person, but I do believe that there's a force that's beating my heart that's breathing me because I can only hold my breath for so long. And then I have to start breathing again. There's something that's working inside of us and with us, and it's got our back I have faith in that. Because the other way to kind of word that question, does it require help from a higher power is do I know all the steps necessary to make this dream happen? Because if you don't that ties into, is it going to require me to grow, you want this thing to make you grow? Because that's where we'll like change happens and growth and you become a bigger person. The fifth question, the last question, Does it have good in it for other people? That's the big question. Because that's where the real fulfillment piece comes in. You can make all the money in the world have a successful business. But if it doesn't do good in it for other people, you're gonna feel empty inside, and you're not going to be as happy or fulfilled. So that's how you know, a dream is really worth your time and talent. So before you even think about going after something, make sure that it has those five questions. Jake Anderson 40:46 That's beautiful, man, I love that so much. And I was taking some notes. And one of the things I just wanted to say that you had mentioned. It's a hell yeah, four, does this align with your core values? I feel like those the the answers to those every answer to this question should be a hell yeah. Should be a Yeah, James Allen 41:08 it should be. It's got to be Jake Anderson 41:09 Hell yeah. This is like this is it like, like, that's how, like, that's how I want to feel. When I answered those questions. There's five questions. And going back to that quote, you said, about, let me make sure I get this correct. It was a really amazing quote, as like, it's not about doing what the world needs, but doing what gives you life or I think if James Allen 41:30 you don't you think the world needs to do what makes you come alive. Because what the world needs are more people who've come alive Howard Thurman Jake Anderson 41:36 exactly in that in that one of the highlight that it's like if it because that's exactly what the world needs is more people to come alive. And when people are depressed when people are unhappy. It's not, it doesn't create a great world to be in, you know, when everybody is unhappy. So the more that people are alive and happy in what they're doing, I think it just creates a better society, and overall experience in life. James Allen 42:00 Yeah, that question? Well, those five questions, they're designed to give you an alignment piece, because our soul like, does it have it good enough for other people, your soul is aligned with helping people, anybody who starts to help someone, whether they give them like a couple bucks to help them get by, or you provide shelter or someone, you invite someone into your home to give them a good meal and a nice place to stay. You know, it's just a part of human nature and the world, the universe, God, it's the plan, that we want to serve other people. That's where real fulfillment comes in. That's why there's books written on service, like Evan Carmichael is built to serve, you know, you want to make sure that the things you're doing and those five questions when you get at zoning, hell yeah, to all five of them, you know that your dream is in alignment with you. And that's the real purpose of it. Because the most fulfilling lives when we have energy is light and light consistently is when we're really in alignment with the things that we love. It's like if you don't have an alignment, your car, it's wobbly, it's shaking, it's not fun, you know? And you're, like, stressed, you're like, Oh, am I gonna crash? Like, kind of walk up like what's gonna happen? And then when you get into alignment, you could like, let go the wheel for a second. Don't do it. But you could you know what I mean? And it will cruise and it's like, cool, and it's smooth. Oh, this is awesome. uncomfortable. Is feels good. Not to say it's like comfortable isn't a bad thing. But it feels good. That's the biggest thing. Jake Anderson 43:23 Yeah, it feels right. It just it feels right. You know, you when you're driving down the road. That's a great analogy is the alignment of a car because anybody's ever driven a car that's out of alignment? It definitely sucks. It creates this like moment of anxiety or like, Am I going to get home? Am I going to be safely get home? James Allen 43:40 Especially that bad? Yeah, Jake Anderson 43:42 yeah, it's that bad. And I've had them that bad before we had to get on our car conversation before we got on the interview talking about vehicles are definitely some, some good metaphors flow in here. So I know, I like this. And I think that, you know, I had ran this test. I didn't ask you specific questions that you have. This is amazing framework. And I think it's foundational to everything that's really been discussed throughout this whole interview with with manifestation and faith and in pulling all that together, because if you do give that resounding Hell yeah, to all five of those questions, then you're going to have more faith, you're going to be more focused in your energy, like everything kind of comes together as it should. But when you when I would imagine that if any of these questions has an answer of No, or maybe or Yeah, sure. Then the other things when it comes to manifestation and faith tend to kind of get off the tracks a little bit because you don't have that foundation. James Allen 44:43 And what to do if you if whoever's listening is like, well, it's kind of a Yeah, for that. Or if he if he just go back to dreaming, start writing out your dream and look at that area, or that portion of it and be like, well, what would be a yes to that now that you know the questions? Be like what would be a yes to that in terms of my dream, and still along the lines of what it is that I want to pursue, because most people have the general idea just takes a little bit of focus. You know, think about the difference between, like manifestation we're talking about a difference between a flashlight and a laser beam is focus. Yeah, energy, you know, if you have like, I have a flashlight, really wide view when you pull it all the way in, but when you pull it all the way out, it's like this very honed in extremely bright light. Because it's focused. Yeah, and that's the difference, right? So when we're really focused on the things that we want to achieve, and fully aligned with our thoughts, feelings and actions, and just like all in, we end up manifesting these amazing things into our life. Hmm. Jake Anderson 45:45 Yes. So my focus James Allen 45:46 is the real key to manifestation like a holistic focus. That's how we manifest Jake Anderson 45:54 Yeah, it's, it's no, I totally see it now. And from, from the, from the standpoint of also just, I think and intentionality I feel like has been like my word for 2021. Like, being gentle about everything like, you know, the converses of people that you want to build relationships with, you know, where you want to put your energy and work in just where your foot like sit, focusing that time and energy throughout your life. That's, that's been, and I tell you, like, the more intentional you are, and the more focused you get, the more traction you're going to see. Whatever it is that you're doing, it's it's pretty amazing. I, I've always told this story, anybody who follows my journey, you know, when I, when I got started in business, this is like 2008 to 2012 hours and special events. And I had like four different, not four, it was like more than five different offers, I was trying to do DJing and lighting and vegetables, like anything that somebody needed for their event I would say yes to. And it was so hard to get traction once I finally focused it down to just doing lighting. And that was it. And I was like this is where I'm going to really put my energy. My business, I remember I close more deals in the first three months after that decision that I did in the four years combined, trying to do all these things. And I just wasn't focused and once like not only was I focused, but the market was focused as well into what I was trying to achieve. So just he created this massive amount of traction. So I think that's a thing because this is all great man. I there's a lot of you know, before we started hitting the interview, I was talking about all the different master classes and things like that, that we can put on YouTube, almost. We can pull up a lot of gems from this one. So here's James Allen 47:37 where the content Yeah, yeah. I don't know how much time we have. But there's one more thing that I wanted to touch on that relates to and I'll just kind of go through one more great framework in terms of like you doing the work that you really love, first off, know that it's possible. That's the bottom line you have the capacity to create it you may not have the mental capacity to believe it's possible. We talked about the Kingston the hose we talked about focusing all your energy, mental physical, your feeling tone, your actions, all that like a laser beam on to this thing do you want to create and you will manifest it people situations, circumstances, random things that come up, quote unquote, out of the blue, to benefit you are going to start showing up. So when you find out that this is what I really want to do, think about it. And then we want to want to think about really honing in on craft. Because when you find out what the craft is like, like Jay, you just talked about lighting, lighting was your thing and you focused on that you got really freakin good at lighting. And because of that you got rewarded. So we want to get compensated, obviously for what we do. And we want to like kind of stay in our lane basically like if you're a marketer, like there's people do done for you marketing funnels. And that's the one thing that they do. Okay, so they get really freaking good at done for you marketing funnels, I do coaching I help people master the inner game, and I focus my energy on getting really freakin good at that. So here's a couple things that you can do to actually hone your craft first ask yourself, what is my craft, okay? If it's coaching, its coaching, its marketing, its marketing with lighting, its lighting, if it's music, whatever it is, ask yourself, what is my craft so you know what it is bring it to mind? And then how do I get better at it off the top of your head? What can you do to get better at it? What are five things that you can do every single day to hone your craft, whether it's studying, whether it's practicing, maybe you're a storyteller or speaker, you practice speaking, you have an alarm that goes off every 30 minutes, or it goes off at one point in the time in the day for 30 minutes and you just go off and tell a story or practice teaching something off the top of your head. So that's how we become more skilled and really practice, practice, practice all the time. Just always be practicing focus, like what's my thing, automate Delhi eliminate all the other tasks that are unnecessary, you know, but you obviously have to have like a business, you have to have marketing in place. But you can automate a lot of things. You can do paid advertisement, you can hire somebody, you know, think outside the box, okay? But practice your thing and figure out what's my thing for me it's coaching, this is what I do, this is what I'm good at. I automate, delegate or eliminate the other tasks that can still keep a business going. But I get to focus on honing my craft. So practice like crazy. Find a mentor, someone who is doing it, who's doing very well, and work with them. And finding a mentor is finding someone who does it really well. And they're at a level that you'd like to be on, for the specific thing that you do. That is also willing to teach you, maybe you have to invest in it, you know, but someone because there's people who are like doing the things you want to do, but they don't want to teach you. So find someone who's willing to teach you as a mentor. Study your craft like crazy. Every day, I used to think that studying was like nonsense until I was like, wow, I have to study like how to be a better speaker practices, I have to study how to be a better coach be more efficient with helping people get results that surpass their expectations faster than they expected. So study like crazy, but most importantly, when you study study from the people who have actually perfected the craft that you're in. So like for lighting, you study the people who have perfected lighting, who are masters at it, you know, artwork, if it's sweeping, I don't know what you do, you know, it's whatever. But know that it's possible. And I share with without one story about just knowing that it's possible. Just real quick about me being in a Facebook group, and someone asked in the group, hey, if you could get paid to do whatever you wanted, what would it be? And this one woman said, Oh, well, I'd be knitting and watching netflix documentaries, but I can't get paid to do that. And I laughed instantly, I went online, and I typed in Highest Paid knitter. And then the first thing apart and you can look it up, the first thing that pops up is one woman makes $1 million per year selling knitting on Etsy. And I was like, boom, like, here you go. Jake Anderson 52:07 Next. James Allen 52:09 Right. It's awareness. Like I laugh. Like, clearly, it's never a money problem. It's never a relationship problem or connection problem. It's not those problems. It's an awareness problem, right? It's an opportunity to raise our level of awareness, which is what she had, she had an opportunity to, like, wow, maybe I was wrong, because somebody else is doing it. And high tide is like finding a mentor. You know, you find someone that's doing it, you can do it too, as long as you got the focus, the passion, the alignment for it. So I hope that answers your question. Yeah. Jake Anderson 52:40 And I want to add, I want to add one, one more piece to this, because this is when it comes to and I use this as a visual metaphor almost. And I think it'll tie well to kind of kept us off here. Just to give some people another perspective to think about is you talk about like honing your craft, which I completely agree with, and, and I know, I know, a lot of people listening and a lot of people in my audience, they've, they've all experienced this, they've gotten stuck into shiny objects and kind of getting distracted by things. And I was imagine like, imagine that you're sitting on your you're standing, you know, in a field, right? And you've got five, you got shovels, and each shovel is a different craft, like one shovel might be, you know, email marketing, another shovel might be and these are business, you know, these are business ideas, like how you're serving, right, maybe you want to help people with email, maybe you want to help people with building, you know, websites, or whatever it is, each one's their own shovel. each one's another shiny object, right. But 100 feet under that dirt is this huge hoard of diamonds. And it's 100 foot to get there, whether you're digging one hole or five holes. So whenever I think about like, this is just a visual, I always think about when it comes to to kind of honing that craft is every, every day that you put in a rep and learn something new, that's a swing of the shovel in the dirt, and you're digging the hole, and you're another swing in the dirt digging the hole, and you got to get 100 feet to get to those diamonds. But if you're trying to hone too many crafts at once is basically like picking up the shovel hit swinging it down, and then run it over and trying to dig another hole and then trying to dig another hole, it's going to take you forever to get to the 100 feet to where the diamonds are but if you just swing one shovel, and just everyday put in a rep put in a rep put in a rep, it's you're going to get there so much faster than if you're running around picking up all these different shovels. So I just wanted to add that in there because that's a it's a visual thing. It helps me kind of, you know, just kind of digging that well, getting to those diamonds and because that's what we're trying to get to and that the diamonds you know that represents whatever it means to you. It's that lifestyle design. It's being happy, fulfilled, and you're doing really what you truly love. So James May This has been great. Like, thank you so much for coming on the podcast and, and sharing, you know, all these different frameworks. I mean, this is definitely one of the more educational interviews I think I've had just with, with going through and actually pulling out different ways that people can navigate and said, I talked about forgiveness, we talked about manifestation and just ways that you can really get to that place where you're truly doing what you love. And I think that's what we're all here for. If you're starting a business and you're working a job, it's are you trying to do something on the side, just because you don't, you're not doing what you love, you know? So you're looking for that thing. So this is a great this, this, this specific interview, I think is a great tool or resource for anybody that is looking for, like how can I kind of, you know, maybe break through a little bit here and get to get on a track to doing the things that I do love and James, you're somebody who can help people get to that, get to that level get to that place. So with that being said, How can people connect with you and get started on this? James Allen 56:07 Yeah, so I think I already sent it to you, but if not, I'll make sure I get it over to you. So there's a link it's at James Allen coaching comm slash next level, where you can just check out James Allen coaching comm as well. But you can learn more about me what I'm doing, you'll get a free coaching program through it that I have, it's on the Laws of Success. It's called working with the law, it's about working with life rather than against it all about the inner game. There's 11 videos inside of that my gift to you, I just ask that you fill out a short assessment, it's just a little questionnaire about high performance, answer those questions and then you get an email with access to the course. And then you'll go to another page where you can learn a little bit more about me kind of what I'm doing and book a call because I would love to work with you if you you know and to see if it's if it's a good fit I don't just work with everybody I like to make sure that it's a good fit for Jake Anderson 56:59 me that someone I want to pour my heart and soul into and if I can actually benefit them with where they're at if the inner game is the actual challenge you know so I stay in my lane like I talked about but that link just click on that you get free coaching program can book a call with me and learn all you want to know about me. Perfect well well I'll make sure to link that up in the show notes and for anybody is listening. I now will have my website blog. So everybody I interview is going to have their own special piece of real estate here on my my introspective podcast estate online at www dot introspective podcast comm backslash James Allen if you want to get access to the video trainings that we've kind of gone through because I've been able to been able to break that up for you, as well as to get the full interview the show notes and all these links to you know his podcast to talk about forgiveness, as well as to his website. James Allen calm by the way you got that domain. I feel like that would be hard. I mean to get James Allen 58:00 James on coaching call James Allen co James Allen. Jake Anderson 58:04 I was sorry about that. I James Allen 58:06 James. four grand on it. Jake Anderson 58:09 Yeah, that is that is that's impressive. That's like domain. I would be surprised to hear like that. That sounds expensive. James. James Allen 58:16 I tried to get gac.com but I couldn't get it. There was no way. Maybe, maybe not coaching works fine for people. So Jake Anderson 58:26 no, that's perfect. Perfect. That's great. James Allen coaching.com. That'll be there. And that's a Ll e. n. James Allen 58:35 Al odn. Jake Anderson 58:36 Yep, gotcha. So, Alright, we'll go check that out. Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of The introspective podcast. I appreciate you being here on today's daily deep dive and I will see you on tomorrow's episode. All right. Transcribed by https://otter.ai
James Allen, an international High-Performance coach, author, and podcaster, joins us today as we continue our ‘Mindfulness Week’ for Entrepreneurs here on the Introspective. James helps his clients live into their highest potential so they can feel more alive, engaged, purposeful, and free. Aligned with his vision, James takes a very holistic approach to success by helping his clients create a life and business that surpasses their expectations in their health, wealth, and relationships. To James, success is an inner game. This is why he helps his clients with things like mindset, confidence, health & well-being, courage, leadership, high-performance, manifestation, on top of business strategy.
Our topic for today’s episode is all about how you can really manifest opportunities and create your life by building this lifestyle design for yourself. In order for its purpose to be achieved which is being focused on your business, there's a lot that we need to understand about that inner game. For James, in order to succeed at a high level for the long term, which is what High Performance is all about, you will need both a strong mindset coupled with an effective strategy. Don’t forget to listen to learn more about today’s episode.
What You'll Learn
- How James perceives ‘manifestation’ and his experiences
- Turning one’s passion into a source of energy and profit
- How to overcome fear from a mindset perspective
“When we're really focused on the things that we want to achieve, and fully aligned with our thoughts, feelings and actions, and just like all in, we end up manifesting these amazing things into our life.”
Learn about the five questions that you can ask yourself in determining whether a particular dream is worth your time and energy.
Connect with James Allen
- Website: https://www.jamesallencoaching.com/
Resources mentioned on this episode
- The Practice of the Tonglen: https://anchor.fm/jamesallencoaching/episodes/Forgiveness-The-Practice-of-The-Tonglen-eokmpn
- The Namaste Practice: https://anchor.fm/jamesallencoaching/episodes/Forgiveness-The-Namaste-Practice-eon68e
- The Dali Lama's Loving Kindness Meditation: https://anchor.fm/jamesallencoaching/episodes/Forgiveness-The-Dalai-Lamas-Loving-Kindness-Meditation-eoqunv
- Listen to James’ “M.P.I. Radio” podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/m-p-i-radio/id1495662075
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